When I first heard, “Heal your past” I ignored it. I did not know that anything in my past could be healed and I was oblivious to the reasons why I would need to do this. I was unaware of how much of my attention was in my past and how much of my energy I was spending thinking about an event or person I held responsible for my pain.
We all carry a heavy burden with us, a burden that acts as an anchor that debilitates and enslaves us to a painful past. We all have suffered painful experiences, things, and people that have hurt us. We have had things that marked us and changed us in some way and because those experiences altered us, we assigned an emotion to them that keeps us connected to that painful past.
This is not to say that our entire past is made up of painful experiences. I, for one, have many joyful and heart-expanding emotions attached to some wonderful moments.
However, I’d like to speak to you about the 70 to 80 percent of the time we spend feeling and thinking about some problem or that somebody that hurt us or disappointed us. Our brain is a record of the past. It looks inside its memory bank to make sense of the world in front and ahead of it. Our brain likes to predict and control the future based on the feelings and experiences of our past.
When our brain brings a memory, our bodies feel the emotions we felt at that specific point in time. The physical body cannot tell if an emotional feeling is happening now or in the past. In other words, when you relive a joyful or painful moment from the past, your body thinks that the moment is happening now.
The subconscious brain works by association and if you believe, as I do, that our thoughts have power and that the way we think about things affects how our life unfolds, then surely you can see the problem, right?
If 70 to 80 percent of our time and attention is spent thinking about something in our past, then we are living in the past and if our future is predicted by how we feel and think, then our future will be nothing more than a copy of the past.
Our subconscious mind is responsible for 95 percent of all the programs that run our daily activities. The subconscious mind thrives on familiarity and learns only through conditioning and repetition. Each time we place our attention on that thing or that someone that wronged us, we are conditioning our mind and body to not only live in the painful past but to become addicted to our suffering.
The problem is that we do this unconsciously and that’s why breaking free from the emotions of the past is sometimes so difficult. Over time, we have conditioned our body —the subconscious mind, that the past is our reality. Most people wake up each morning on autopilot and their habit is to immediately recall events of the past, or the things they have to do and the problems they need to tackle. Before they even get out of bed, they have primed their body with cortisol, the fear hormone and now they are headed for a day of stress and anxiety. I speak from experience, living in the painful past is the surest path to disease.
Why? Receptors on the surface of our cells, interface with our emotions and tissues so each time you feel the emotions of hurt, anger, resentment, betrayal, loss, our brain receives the signal to make chemicals to match the very emotions you are having. These emotions in turn create neuropeptides and when our emotions are linked to unresolved traumas, the neuropeptides get stored at the cellular level in our tissue and organs. Over time, we can develop all kinds of unwanted issues such as chronic inflammation and sometimes illnesses in certain organs that get associated with our unresolved traumas.
Every thought and emotion you have carries a vibration. Vibrations attract everything that resonates at that same frequency. If you are constantly reliving your painful past, feeling grief, pain, shame, and guilt —you tend to attract things, people, and circumstances into your life that vibrate at the same frequency as the very emotions you are emitting. Unfortunately, the five percent of your conscious mind that wants to get healthier, the one that wants to attract better relationships and be more successful, is working against the 95 percent of you who is living by the chemicals and chains of your past. What do you think you will attract?
How do you heal your past and unleash your destiny?
You have three choices:
1. Keep reliving your past for the rest of your life.
2. Forget what hurt you by ignoring it.
3. Change the emotion you attached to the event and release the trauma.
Only you can decide which way you’ll go. To change and heal requires work from you. I can tell you from experience that breaking free from your past takes a great degree of consciousness, willpower, and awareness to catch yourself each time you are in your past and to train your thoughts and emotions to say in the present moment.
You may hear people say that the best way to release your painful past is to ignore it. Tuck it under the rug and never to look back, “Focus on the future, not the past.” I followed this advice for many years. In fact, that is why therapy for me did not work. Either people spend every session retelling and reliving the past with no resolution, or we are told to put it away and look forward not backward.
We cannot sail to our new destination while we are still anchored to the port. Just because you think you have left your past in the past; does not mean you are freed from it. Trust me, I was carrying the anchor with me everywhere I went: into every relationship, work, life, and circumstance.
In order to sail to the future, we must first peel all the layers and heal each part of our past. Stuffing it down or pushing it under the rug in the hopes that if you can’t see it, maybe it is not there –that’s just an illusion. Thinking about it unconsciously is not going to help you either. It is will just continue to replicate the pattern into your future.
I am fortunate to have figured out how to heal my own past. I am blessed to have worked with over 1,000 people from nearly 85 countries, through The Gratitude Experiment, to help them heal their past.
From my experience, here’s what I’ve learned:
Believe me, when I tell you, there is no bypass for pain. If you can’t feel it, you can’t heal it. So, I advise my students in my gratitude course The Gratitude Experiment, (FMTG) that the first step in their healing is in the allowance. Allow yourself to feel and to feel whatever it is you are facing or have faced deeply without shame or guilt. The act of allowing and not resisting what lies at the deepest recess of your subconscious wounds to surface is what helps to finally release and heal.
All those neuropeptides that have stayed in your cells and tissue are waiting for something to shift, something to change so they can finally metabolize and release.
I am an advocate of breaking free from your past, but in order to do this, one must first take a short visit down memory lane — not to relive the trauma, but to go back in time to change the emotion you have associated and attached to that particular painful event. Let me be clear, you cannot change the event, but you can go back, in a meditative state to replace the emotion.
My gratitude students are taught to go back to that particular event in time and sit with Mr. Pain and Mrs. Darkness. I teach them to face their demons, to cast light into their shadow, and turn their pain into wisdom by shifting the way they think about the event —focusing on the lesson, not the hurt.
I am not advocating you go back to relive the trauma. I am advocating to go back and face your shadow without shame or guilt but with compassion and gratitude for being a part of who you are. Once you no longer resist the event, your energy shifts. The emotion associated with it weakens and it no longer holds an energetic charge over you. You walk lighter and freer as the chains that have tied you have dissolved.
You must consciously and intentionally visit your past because you can’t build a future with the same tools, emotions, thoughts and behaviors you used to make the decisions that led you to your painful past.
If you are consistently judging the world through the lenses of the past, you actually perceive and see the world how you are not as how things actually are. Your view of the world becomes distorted, narrow, and painful.
You cannot build a joyful present with the same circumstances and habits that led you to the painful parts of your life that you are now trying to forget.
When you forgive and accept your past, you no longer have the need to keep remembering it. Your attention is no longer there and when you take your attention off your past, now your energy can be in the present moment creating a future of possibilities. Your past is no longer a predictor and determinant of your future but merely a teaching tool.
Only when you release the attachment to the past and change the emotions you felt for it, can one begin to be defined by a vision of the future you want to create. FMTG teaches students to prime their bodies and minds first thing in the morning with five minutes of concentrated gratitude — gratitude for the present moment and for their present blessings.
The act of consciously connecting and feeling heartfelt emotions such as love, acceptance, appreciation, and compassion on a consistent basis, teaches your body to create new thoughts and feel new emotions that in turn direct your brain to create more chemicals to match the very emotions that you are feeling — and a new world of possibilities opens up.
When you keep practicing and rehearsing being submerged in the present moment, you will inevitably get out of bed and start your day feeling like a new person, being more present, more loving, more connected with yourself and everything in your world. And at least for those five minutes, you are no longer bound by your past or your pain. You are in the present moment, more present with life.
When you place your attention on the present moment with high vibrating emotions, you are no longer in the past and you begin to attract what resonates with the signature of possibility. The end result is that you become a magnet for miracles.
If you want to heal your past and unleash your destiny, start by forgiving and letting go of your past. Through the act of acknowledgment, unwrap each trauma, every childhood conditioning, every societal program, and through the act of compassion and forgiveness, you heal every layer in your past through gratitude. Only then will you be able to fully be free and build the life you are destined to have.
For Information on how to sign up for The Gratitude Experiment, FMTG
I like your article. I don’t care for future ,I don’t remember past , I am enjoying present because present is present.
Totally true and it all makes sense.
I recognize many of the issues and have dealt with them.
Thank you for this article. We are all carrying around this extra burden.
We need to look at it objectively and learn from it. Forgive. Bring our new knowledge and forgiveness forward.
Hi Waleuska: Excellent article. The forgiving part is the hardest, but I agree when you forgive you can release the pain of the past and move forward. Have a good summer
Thank you Waleuska again sending your important topics”heal your past and unleash your destiny” and you discussed very briefly how we live with our past and how can we escape from that past burden and I hope this article will very helpful for all aspirants and others,I again thank you for spreading your healing words and kindness among people
Thanks a lot for your powerful message.
Thank you so accurate. I’m being gaslighted by my community. This has happened before with the same circumstances. I carry a lot of unhealed trauma from the experiences Both past and present. People go out of their way to cause me harm. Mentally, Emotionally and Physically. It’s so hard on me. The moment I try to heal here they come to drag me back down. It’s been hell to live through. There’s not a day that goes by that something deeply disturbing doesn’t happen. BB xx
Thank you Waleuska. Your article’s are impactfull. I love them.
Thank you so much for this helpful article. What you said is true, because there was once a time when I carry on my back the pain and burden from my past and it destroy everyday of my life. Until then when I reached my threshold that I decided to change for the better. I learned to accept the past for what it is, I made a peace with my past, I forgive all those who hurts me and I told myself that it’s for the best. Now I am grateful that I’d changed what I feel on my past, I am grateful that those experiences happened because those are the reason why I grow into a completely new and higher being. In addition to that being a compassionate person helps a lot.
Your five minutes is one of the simplest and easiest way to change life.
So many unconscious thoughts bringing constant and tiny odd emotions… disappear just focussing in giving them space. Space full of thankfulness .Very important the full. Once they get their acceptance and love they need, they go. Such tricky dwarfs!!!
Now I love them. And thanks to them I am who I am.
Thanks Wal… how did you get the idea???
It’s not very often I read long posts like this one that you shared in Dr. Joe’s group.
Most of the time I see all the words and scroll on past. But this one caught my attn and lured me in. Word. For. Word. And now…. I.m here. Ty🙏
I do this, way too often…and it leads to overthinking, stress, anxiety, and sadness. I need to break this cycle. I am sick o fliving in the past and letting it dictate how i feel and my actions.
Thank you for sharing this reminder
This article makes so much sense to me and brings hope that I will too be able to change how I feel about events. Thank you, Waleuska for this. I am grateful to be part of this group and experience.
That is the truth as i see it
I can totally relate. Many things I didn’t understand, but I’m grateful to have unleash the working power of my subconscious. Grateful for Dr. JD’s works.🙏
Breaking the habit of being yourself(BTHBY) … Amazing Waleuska Lazo ❤️💕 !!! Thank you for your post. I am so grateful for you sharing your experience and guidance 🥰 Much love 💕
So powerful thanks.
Thank you 🙏
I wish.. I wish so deeply for people that the will wake up someday.. instead of repeating the same shit and feel it over and over again, became critical to the whole world ❤
Thats some good words for the weekend.
Amazing. Thank you, for sharing.
This is amazing, just what i need right now
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing🙏❤️
Thank you for sharing this. I know in my heart it is absolutely the truth.👏👏💖💖
Well, isn’t this interesting.
I was just wondering a few hours ago, if it is at all possible to use LOA while you are healing. I would still like an answer to that. But this is a great start.
“Addicted to our suffering”
You have an awesome perspective. Very truthful
So true! The best way to heal your hurt or harms that people have done to you is to let go, Simple but true “just let it go”. it will bring joy and peace. to your heart. Your heart will send this message to your brain, brain will process it and manifest it in peace and joy.💓💓💓
From now on I’m saying it’s easy to do. It’s a choice, my choice and I choose peace and joy from now on. I’m doing that so I can deal with the lower emotions when they come up cause I’m building a solid foundation. I’m taking it a day at a time. Sometimes it’s an hour at a time, it doesn’t matter cause it’s for me and I’m worth every second🥰
I love this SO much! I keep reading it over and over! Thank you for sharing! ❤️
This is well written and very true. The past and it’s pain need to be acknowledged. It all must be processed in order to be free from it! Trust me I know and it took a very long messy road to realise this…. Don’t waste any more time!
Amen! Can Attest to The Power of Internal Healing! Can Wish, Hope, and Want it, for all others! Pray that your words of Wisdom “ Go Forward, and makes a Difference… God Bless
Thank you, well written, important that we let go of the “issues in our tissues.” A Nikki Myer quote x
I love the part of going back and healing the shadows. I’ve done a lot of work on myself over the years but still have a few shadows I have to set free, I have to go back and change the “emotion attached to the event” I love that…. your article simplifies what I’ve been trying to let go of for many years. So much Gratitude x happy to be here x
What if you were the one that caused the pain. How do you let that go
Thank you. I really needed this x
Love the article x
Waleuska Lazo thank you so much for your words, I’ve been on a healing journey for the past two years and have yet to heal the past childhood trauma. Your guidance has given me hope in healing my past hurt 🙏🏻
Thank you very much❤️
Thank you for sharing this ♥I truly need this……. I entrap in the past memories I want to get over this painful trauma……but I can’t collect all the power to get rid of it……. I m depressed, sad and have continuous thought of guilt and shame all day over day…… I am stuck in the past
Thank you so much
Thank you, i needed this ❤
amazing thank you for sharing
Wow, that was deep.
Thank you for taking the time to share this- I am just starting to learn how are brains function and how important all of the meditation with Joe Dispenza and this has helped me understand that it’s a process. To embrace and change how we see the past, forgive and smile- its not easy. How lucky we are to be a part of this amazing group. Thank you!!! 💙🙏💙
So grateful for your post. Thank you
This is just amazing..heartfelt
Waleuska Lazo that was the best thing I’ve read in ages thank you 🙏
I’m so blessed to have the great opportunity to read such a wonderful article and remind myself of who I’m and let go of those hurtful feelings that tide me to the past in the present moment, to be kind and forgiving, and start living in the present with joy, excitement, consciousness and freedom, thank you so much ❤❤
Wow I resonated with this, very well said.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for the great post
When you go back to the painful incidents and the hurt you felt that time…you relive the pain and that is very traumatic to the present…something which can still devastate you …throw you off gear and your (my) composer dwindles and you feel so bad you touched a raw point. Maybe it is good …I tried to change the emotion attached to a past pain…but this is a very very painful procedure.it opens a pandora box of painful incidents which have hurt you and present becomes gloomy again
Lengthy but very worth the read!!
This was so worth the read! Thank you so much!
This is an amazing read. So that is why when we think about something painful we are reliving it like it is happening again at that very moment. Hence continued sorrow. Wow the power of our brains! I will be reading this again and again. Thank you for teaching and explaining this so beautifully x
Thank you Waleuska. This is a great post. Thank you for adding to everything I am learning on FMTG. It had changed my life 🥰