I‘ve learned that the things we think are a loss are often not. You may think so at the moment, but as things settle and you give Life the opportunity to reveal the path, you understand why things had to happen as they did. You have to make room for the new to find you. Sometimes it is necessary to let go of people even when you find it painful.
Oftentimes we assign judgment to a situation without knowing the big picture. To optimize your life for happiness, do your best to appreciate every situation – even the difficult ones. Ask yourself what’s the purpose or meaning in this situation that will help take your life to the next level?
Not every person is meant to go the distance with you. Some people are assigned shorter energetic contracts and once those contracts are realized, people have a way of moving on from your life. Once a lesson is learned, new people come into our lives to teach us, show us, hurt us or inspire us to experience the next set of lessons.
Mourning a Loss Is Not Weak
I’ve learned that it is not weak to mourn relationships that end, even when those were perceived as bad ones. Whether they are friendships, family ties or romantic ones, it is brave to allow yourself to feel the absence and the empty space they leave. But I’ve also learned that it takes even more bravery to not stay stuck in the loss and to understand that if those relationships end, it is because they no longer serve your highest and greatest good.
The next time someone walks away from you, instead of feeling devastated, wish them well and thank the Universe for the time you had with them. Thank Life for the good times and for the hurtful ones because the good ones gave you joy and the bad ones gave you lessons.
I can tell you with certainty that contracts that end with people we love are hurtful. I won’t tell you otherwise. But I can say for sure that when I look back at those people that left, better things came into my life as a result. The same can be true for you.
Not All Things that End Are “Bad”
It is also important to know that not all things that end are “bad.” I’ve had great relationships end as well, but for one reason or another, they seemed to fizzle out when their purpose for the connection had been served.
Learn to look at everything in your life not as bad or good, but as learning opportunities to either do better or be better and evolve. Sometimes we hold on to people for too long as their contract has been served and is now over. We stubbornly see their departure as a failure and as a loss.
I’ve learned that the more you delay and retain those finished contracts, the more you prolong the suffering, not just for yourself, but for the other person as well. I remember dating and loving deeply a man who was not right for me. He came into my life with a specific purpose, to be the wound-giver. Of course, neither of us knew that at the start. To make a long story short, I was head over hills as the saying goes. This blinded my ability to see that he was wrong for me on multiple levels but I pursued the relationship nonetheless.
This turned out to be the most painful, toxic and disruptive relationship of my life so far. I was hurt in the deepest and cruelest of ways a person can get hurt. Despite it all, each time this man wanted to leave, I would convince him to stay, something that cost me deeply. This experience taught me that when someone wants to go, let them, even if it hurts. What is meant for you doesn’t need convincing. What is meant for you is never threatened.
At the time of course, I could not conceive of letting him go. As bad as the relationship was, I saw it as a huge failure for me and I am the kind of person who doesn’t like losing. I fought the battles alone. I loved, invested and believed for both of us. It was an uphill journey with a very steep price.
When a contract is coming to an end, don’t resist it, otherwise it will be like expecting to get water out of a rock. Learn to not fear the end of things because ends are always followed by new beginnings and that is something to be grateful for. If you focus on what you think you are losing, you will suffer. If you are grateful for what lies ahead, you will be at peace.
In retrospect, had I not been so stubborn in holding on for a life that was not meant for me, I would have saved myself a lot of pain and grief. Years later, I’ve come to see the end of this relationship as the greatest blessing in my life. It was the Best Worst Thing that Happened to Me, hence the title of the first book I wrote!
What I saw in the moment as a great loss was a huge blessing disguised in pain. I learned so much from that relationship. That relationship cracked open my soul, led me to my life’s purpose, and taught me above all — to not fight Life.
When it’s time for people to leave your path, accept it. It is not up to you to know or understand the reasons why. But it is up to you to have faith that all things that happen, are happening for your greater good.
BE GRATEFUL for all things that end.
What is meant for you, will flow to you.
What is not meant for you, will wither away.
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Very good insight .. thank q . And u look lovely 🌷
Thanks for sharing it hits a lot of my life then and now
This resonated with me so much and again reinforces to let go of the relationship that is no longer serving my greater good. Thanks for the this reminder ❤️
“Life does not happen TO us…it happens FOR us”. A friend of mine quotes this in her podcast. It is so true. Thank you for sharing Walueska. What you wrote is so beautifully stated. Be well!!! ♥️
I needed this today. Thank you!
Wow, well said Walesuka. I was nodding my head throughout this. It really hit home. Thank you. Now upward and onward we go.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you for a good article with kind wisdom.
A reminder we all need in difficult times and to teach us to craft strenght in the good.
A definite must read for all.
This is clear point, thanks for this
Great share 💙
Thank you! Much needed message for me 💙
Thank you! Much needed message for me 💙
Thank you for sharing….I think I have been through about 50 of those kind of relationships. I may have learned the lesson late, but grateful I learned it at all. By the way, your hair looks great in this picture.
Spot on 🎯
Very well and in detail described
Thank you so much for this message!!
I lost a business partner yesterday. I was fighting for the contract that he cancelled in March but said „maybe we can renew it after the summer“- in the end I should have let go months ago. It hurts and I am angry thinking that he lead me on. Well… he didn’t. He had terminated the relationship/ contract 6 months ago and I stubbornly held onto that slight chance that he might come back.
After reading your post I feel comfortable enough to let him go. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
Very good and well written. It happened to me.
A good way to look at it.
P s Love the hair too
Beautiful photo. Great story. Be well!!!❤
this post is amazing. Did you invite me to this group? Thank you!
Such a beautiful and thoughtful writing❤❤🤗🤗
True but harsh
It took me almost 4 years to realize that my husband leaving and wanting a divorce was what was best for me and that allowed me to become the person I am meant to be.
Beautiful words x
This is such a beautiful write up! So much wisdom and perspective here 😊🌟❤️🙏
Such a powerful post. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably. I will hold on to the “nugget” and reflect on it 💕
Thank you for the share and realizing all things in your life has purpose as do the choices we make.💕🥰
Needed to be reminded of this today. Where can I find your book?
I love this! You need dont need courage to get off the couch….. Courage only shows up when we decide to act!
I love this thank you . We keep toxic ppl I. Our lives trying to fix them ! Letting go may help them fix theirselves ❤️bless them on their journey
Waleuska Lazo, thank you, this resonates so much with me today. Let life happen and appreciate every moment to the fullest! ❤️
I’m so happy this post came into my consciousness just at the moment when I was contemplating reaching out to a close friend of 30 years who, in the end, hurt me terribly. I miss her so much. Jot a day passes that I don’t think about her. But as painful as it is, I had to realize that our contract expired. But I will always have the wonderful memories of our 30 years of “sisterhood”.
It is great to miss as it is a testament of your love and care. You can send her love and even talk to her in your mind. Energy transcends time and space. I’m a believer of letting expired contracts rest.