Relationships are the most difficult thing we are here to master. Some are forever, some are here for a short while, but they all bring with them a lesson. In my case, the biggest lesson it taught me is that love, true love never ends — it evolves.
While divorced from ex-husband, love has remained intact. Perhaps it has even deepened in a way that transcends romantic love — love of friendship, of history, family, partners, co-parents. So you see, just because sometimes things don’t work out the way we had hoped, if we remain open, life will often surprise us and give us something even deeper and more meaningful than we had.
Sometimes, the lesson does not end up being like it was for me, but none the less it taught you something that has made you better because of it: more wisdom, more aware, more careful, more loving, more compassionate.
Today, can you think of a relationship (romantic or not) that did not go as you expected, but that taught you a lesson, please share below for us what your lesson was.
Totally agree with you. My last, alas short lived relationship, lead me to discover the work of Byron Katie which profoundly transformed my life, teaching me to take 100% responsibility for my life and feelings.
I still love him deeply and even more than before while I see why we had to end it.He couldn’t commit, and still can’t because of his fear of intimacy. While back then I thought it was because I wasn’t good enough for him, now I see it had nothing to do with me as he continues to treat other women the same way. But instead of holding it against him, I feel compassion towards his fear of commitment and pray for his healing.
Ram Dass talks about how there are certain patterns that trigger us to fall in love. That person is like a key that fits perfectly into our lock which then opens us up to love – the space within us where we ARE love, where we ARE IN love.
The problem becomes when we get addicted to the method, or the key, that opened us up to love.
So my journey now, over 3 years after this short relationship, is to still love him deeply and be grateful that I feel love for him even though we’re not romantically involved anymore.
I pray for me to remain open to falling in love with someone with whom we’ll have a compatible vision, a mutual love for each other and a desire to build a life together.
I love you
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you ❤️
WONDERFUL WOMAN WHO CHOOSES TO TRANSCEND AND EVOLVE WITH THE UNIVERSE PROGRESSIVE EVOLUTION!
Yes, for sure. Thanks for sharing your info Waleuska! To me the true purpose of relationship is to learn about yourself. Its in relationship that our stuff is going to come up & out, for inner reconciliation & healing
I separated from my fiancé 6 years ago and now we get along better than ever. We have forgiven the past and now we are good friends.
It’s wonderful to learn how when our attitude changes, our life changes.
Gratitude changes everything.
So many times for sure and like you I’ve learnt so much wether it’s a friend or an ex husband, we grow and we learn. In my case I’ve learnt what true love is only after my divorce when I met my now fiancé. So, I never really knew love with a partner, I do however every day with my kids and now my soon-to-be husband. Thank you for sharing it’s beautiful.
Definitely more wisdom, life experiences are always teaching us. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience Waleuska Lazo
because I was abused as a child, I never learned about proper love and self-worth. On my healing journey I had several relationship where I let myself be abused, disrespected and taken advantage of.
Thankfully, I finally learned that any relationship takes work from the 2 people involved in it. I learned that I need to feel worthy to make people respect me. I learned that I don’t need toxic people in my life, since they will never let me progress in myself or in my life. 😁
I learned to love myself more than my fear of living without him.
I don’t know how to have relationships that’s for my alters to help me with. Im going to seek professional help again as this is something I desperately want. Getting older and I want to feel love.
This is great info for caring about your partner
Yes.. many in different ways and yes each taught me something. I am a giver at heart, it is sometimes seen as “you feel above others” actually it is because I have been given and I desire to do likewise. I took a young woman and her two young children in they needed a place to live until she could saved to pay rent.
I charged her, nothing .
I was young also, but the lesson she taught me took a while “to soak in”
I helped her find an apartment. And when she moved she had no living room furniture.. I have two couches and offered her one she declined.
She , didn’t visit or call me , the one thing I was known to do .
If someone is upset or acting different towards me. I should ask. From the point of:
“Have I done anything to offend you?” ( Old Bible Lesson.Go to thy brother….)
I had done this on a few occasions but each time the person would say “oh You not done anything.”
I would leave feeling I had done my part yet disappointed.
This time I was told . I was a “do gooder” and that I felt I had more than others and was always giving!!
I was hurt and yet appreciated her having the guts to say what she felt..I left bewildered.
Later in life I got the message Sometimes it is best to let people ask then help if that is what you can or want to do.
Sometimes it is better to do somethings anomous .
Sometimes not to do anythings at all.
There are some people it doesn’t matter what you do…
When people are down
And you help them to get back on their feet.
It’s not you necessarily,who they don’t like .it is what they were are were not that you remind them of.
So I learn to use wisdom in giving …and when I do ,flow with the outcome . Sometimes it “cost to find out who people are, or that they move on out of your life ,for it may have been for a season and that is the reason .
She took I’ll and the one thing that I did. .I went to her apartment and cleaned for her ..but it was more for me I did not want to let her honesty that did hurt ,cause me to be angry or unkind to her. And that helped me get over the pain and grateful to her for the lesson. That has lasted a long time.